The first mistake most men make when a girl doesn’t text them back is to immediately send them a text asking what’s up or what’s wrong or even saying something totally unrelated.
Instead, men need to remember that texting in the dating world needs to be very strategic if they are going to be able to compete with all the other men vying for a girl’s attention.
There could be a myriad of reasons why a girl doesn’t text you back. For instance, maybe she is swamped at work. Maybe she has some other drama in her life, with a girlfriend or family member or something that has kept her distracted. Maybe she lost her phone. Maybe she is out of town. Maybe she doesn’t like you enough and is having second thoughts.
The point is there are so many possible reasons why she might not have texted you back that it doesn’t really matter, except for the last reason and in that case, there is very little you can do about it except follow the advice below.
But, with that said, rather than dwell on why she might not have texted you back, the smarter thing to do is use it as an opportunity t let her know you are busy and popular with other women.
Here are some strategies that might combat her refusal to text you back. The first key is to allow some time to pass to not only give her a chance to respond, but to dispel any thoughts she might have that you are sitting around anxious to hear back from her. (Even, or especially if, you are doing just that.)
Ignore her silence and text back something pretending that she was the last one to text you. But, keep in mind that in order for this to work, you need to let some time lapse. Preferably two days, but at least one full day. You can send something totally unrelated to your previous conversation for best effect. And it shouldn’t be something lame, such as “What’s up?” The next time you text her after she cut off contact, you better have something cool and casual to say.
For instance, you might say, “At Yankee’s game. Woot!”
This shows you didn’t even notice she didn’t text you back and that you are out having a ball, which leads me to my next tip.
Make sure that your next text to her after her non-response is not asking her for anything. Not how she is doing or what happened. You simply want to say something goofy or funny about how much fun you are having. You might say something totally random, such as “Saw a guy in an evening gown on the subway tonight. Trippy dude.” But whatever you do, make sure the text has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you.
This one is iffy, but might be worth a last-ditch effort: Pretend that she did text you back and respond. She will soon figure out that you are responding to another girl’s text but sending it to her by accident. Sometimes this is worth a shot. For instance, you might send her a text saying something vague, such as “That sounds awesome, but I’m already tied up on Thursday.”
If she responds back asking what’s up or acting confused, play dumb and vague and say something, such as “Sorry about that. My bad.” And don’t explain.